How to Stop My Relationship Break Up

Sometimes break ups take everyone by surprise, but it's actually worse to be in a relationship where both partners have fallen out of love. Are both of you so insistent on being right that you can't give in at all? If you think your relationship is on the verge of breaking up, you do have options when it comes to trying to save it.

#1 Stop the cycle of blame.

We are quick to blame our significant others when our relationships are failing. He no longer pays attention to me. She always shuts me out. For once, he should be nice to me. I would do things for her if she did not bother me about them all the time. If you blame your partner for all of the issues, they will get defensive and none of the problems will be solved. Start paying attention to the things your partner has, rather than the things they do not have.

#2 Don't be so clingy.

It's unhealthy to need your partner's presence constantly. It's very common for relationships to fail over issues involving co-dependency. Its okay if your partner wants to do things alone or with people other than you, and you should be able to do simple things by yourself. If you constantly need to have your partner with you, you should begin looking for things to do that don't involve your partner.

#3 How is your communication?

Every good relationship requires good communication. Arguing or making smart comments isn't a way of communicating. You need to stop it because it's cruel and shows a lack of respect. If you wouldn't treat a friend that way, you shouldn't treat a loved one that way either.

#4 Don't listen to the voices in your head.

Do you wrongly project thoughts and actions on your partner? The voices in your head might tell you that your significant other doesn't really love you because they aren't always there to rescue you immediately. If you keep listening to those voices in your head, you will only wind up bitter.

#5 Are you paying attention?

Do you pay attention to the things your partner is involved in? Do you pay attention to what they are saying and take it to heart? Sometimes we are so insistent on being correct that we can't hear anything else. When you come across another argument, keep your voice down and pay attention to your partner's side of things. First of all, you might not hear something crucial. Second, sometimes you are wrong.

There are relationships for which following all of these steps still would not be enough. If you have been in a bad relationship for a long time, you need to gain some space from your partner. Take the time apart as a sign that you should step back and see things more clearly before making a final decision.